Something to
ponder -
For those of you who have already entered into such a
contract -May Allah continue to guide you and may your actions only
increase your wife's love and devotion toward you and may your
actions be a source of great pleasure to Allah Ta'aala and may your
devotion and love towards the almighty increase with every loving
action.
For those who have yet to take the "leap"
may Allah guide you and may you be blessed with the pleasure of
marriage to a woman who is God-fearing and obedient. May Allah grace
your life with the presence of a wife who offers you comfort and
brings you closer to Allah Ta'aala
Insha'Allah
NIKAH
- HUSBAND'S OBLIGATIONS
Have you
ever pondered over the Khutbah which the Imaam recited to you before
you enthusiastically uttered 'Nakahtuhaa Wa Qabiltuhaa Wa
Tazawwajtuhaa?' Let me help you and shed some light over this
contract which you have made yourself party to, that is 'The Nikah
(Marriage) Contract'. The Imaam (Priest) recited to you three verses
from the Noble Qurn: Surah Nissa (4) verse 1* O Mankind Fear your
guardian Lord who created you from a single soul, and He created from
it its mate and from them He scattered many men and women... Surah
Aale Imraan (3) verse 102 * O Ye who believe! Fear Allah as He should
be feared and die not except in a state of Islam. Surah Ahzaab
(33) verse 70 * O Ye who believe. Fear Allah and make your utterances
straight. TAQWA The common element in each of these verses is
the Arabic word 'Taqwa' (God Consciousness). In these verses you are
reminded to fear Allah Tala in the manner you treat the lady you are
taking as your wife. There is no one to see the way you conduct
yourself within your home. Let the fact and belief that Allah is
watching guide you in your treatment of the woman you have made your
wife by granting her the respect and dignity she deserves.
You have
brought somebody's daughter into your own home. She left her family,
her friends, close associates and in many cases even the town that
she grew up in and she came to a strange environment just to share
the rest of her life with you. Was she handed over to you to be a
target of your physical and verbal abuse? The Prophet (Sallallaahu
layhi Wasallam) is reported to have said in connection with the
treatment of animals: 'Fear Allah in your treatment of these animals
who cannot speak.' If this was his concern for the animals, how
tremendously greater would his concern have been for humans;
therefore,can you imagine what his reaction would have been to the
wife battering that takes place nowadays? What then are the most
important ingredients of a happy marriage? Allah Tala says in Surah
Roum (30) verse 21. 'And from amongst His signs is that He created
for you from amongst yourselves partners, that you may live in
tranquility with them, and He has created love and mercy between you.
Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.' It is this
love and mercy that strengthens the bond of marriage.
The ability to overlook each other's faults goes a long way in cementing the relationship. Once a man came to Rasulullah (Sallallaahu layhi Wasallam) and said, 'O Allah's messenger, how many times should I forgive the wrongs of my slaves.' The Prophet (Sallallaahu layhi Wasallam) replied, 'Forgive them seventy times a day.' If a worker is entitled to so much of compassion what about your lifelong companion?
BEST OF YOU Today, we are very courteous to our clients, appreciative to our colleagues and cheerful to our friends. Unfortunately this warmth is not extended to the poor wife who is most deserving of this courtesy and charm. The Prophet (Sallallaahu layhi Wasallam) is reported to have said, 'The most complete of believers in faith are those who are best in character. The best of you are those who are best to their wives.' (Mishkat) Every person has shortcomings. It is therefore quite natural to find this in your partner. The Prophet (Sallallaahu layhi Wasallam) has advised us to take pleasure in the good and overlook the bad. Have you ever spared the thought that there may be so many habits which you possess that may be bringing grief to your wife? She may have been patiently bearing it not wanting to hurt your feelings. Let us go back and fulfill the demands of this contract.
TREAT YOUR
WIFE AS YOU WOULD LIKE YOUR SON-IN-LAW TO TREAT YOUR DAUGHTER.
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